Therapy Services

• High-Functioning Anxiety: We address the engine that drives high performance but often comes at a steep physiological cost. The work focuses on untangling the need for excellence from the state of hyper-vigilance. The goal is to retrain the nervous system to maintain high standards without the exhausting background noise of constant dread.

• Depression & The "Void": For high achievers, depression often manifests as apathy, numbness, or a sense of emptiness rather than sadness. We examine the disconnect between external success and internal fulfillment. The objective is to reconnect with a sense of purpose and aliveness, moving from mechanical functioning to genuine engagement with life.

• Burnout: Burnout is a systemic issue, not just a need for rest. It is a state of depletion caused by prolonged stress and misalignment. We assess the root causes—whether environmental, structural, or boundary-related—and build a strategy for sustainability. This often involves re-evaluating professional roles and establishing firm boundaries to protect cognitive and emotional resources.

• The Trap of Perfectionism: We approach perfectionism as a defense mechanism used to mitigate risk, rather than a simple pursuit of quality. While effective for early career growth, it often becomes a liability that leads to procrastination and risk aversion. We work to dismantle the "Inner Critic," shifting motivation from a fear of failure to a pursuit of growth and innovation.

• Relational Issues & Isolation: Success can create structural isolation, leading to relationships that feel transactional or guarded. We focus on the skills of differentiation—the ability to remain true to oneself while staying connected to others. The work involves breaking patterns of withdrawal or conflict to build relationships grounded in authenticity rather than performance.

• Fear of Failure & Imposter Syndrome: The gap between external accolades and internal confidence can create a constant fear of being "exposed." We work to internalize accomplishments and separate inherent worth from professional output. This reduces the need to over-prepare and allows for calculated risk-taking based on data rather than fear.

• Trauma/PTSD/CPTSD: Unresolved history often impacts current leadership styles and personal reactions. We use evidence-based approaches to process past events—whether acute or relational—so they no longer drive present-day reactivity. The focus is on integration and nervous system regulation, ensuring that past dynamics do not dictate current decisions.

• Addiction & Substance Use: We view substance use as a regulation strategy that has become maladaptive. Whether it involves alcohol, prescription medication, or other numbing behaviors, we examine the function the behavior serves in managing stress. The goal is to build effective, sustainable ways to regulate the nervous system without reliance on external substances.

• Problematic Sexual Behaviors: When stress is high, sexual behavior can become a primary method for self-soothing or seeking intensity. We provide a neutral space to address behaviors such as compulsive pornography use or infidelity. The focus is on moving away from secrecy and compartmentalization toward integrity and healthy, conscious sexuality.

• High-Conflict Couples Therapy: Conflict in high-stress relationships often follows a predictable, destructive loop. We work to interrupt these cycles of reactivity. The goal is not just to "stop fighting," but to move out of gridlock. We focus on emotional regulation, identifying the underlying attachment wounds driving the rage, and building the capacity to disagree without destroying the connection.

• Discernment Counseling: For couples where one partner is leaning out and the other is leaning in, traditional therapy can be ineffective. Discernment Counseling is a short-term, structured process designed not to "fix" the marriage, but to gain clarity and confidence about the future. The goal is to determine—without regret—whether there is a viable path to reconciliation or if the healthiest choice is to separate.

• Pre-Marital Counseling: We view pre-marital work as the "due diligence" phase of your partnership. Rather than just hoping for the best, we proactively address differences in financial philosophy, family-of-origin expectations, and conflict styles. This ensures you are entering the marriage with a shared operational manual and a clear vision for your life together.

• Separation/Divorce Counseling: When a relationship ends, the goal shifts from romantic connection to respectful decoupling. Drawing on my background in law and mediation, I help couples navigate the emotional volatility of separation. We focus on preserving dignity, managing the narrative for family and friends, and establishing boundaries that allow both parties to move forward.

• Co-Parenting Post-Separation: We help former partners transition from a romantic relationship to a functional "business partnership" centered on the children. The focus is on reducing conflict, establishing consistent protocols across households, and protecting the children from being triangulated in adult issues.

• Mismatched Desire and Lack of Intimacy: We address the sexual disconnect that often occurs in long-term relationships, moving beyond the "symptom" of low desire to the root cause. Whether the issue is physiological, relational, or rooted in stress, we work to dismantle the pressure around sex and rebuild an erotic connection that feels safe and authentic for both partners.

• Infidelity Recovery: The discovery of a timeline of secrets or a physical affair creates a specific form of trauma for the betrayed partner and a crisis of identity for the involved partner. We move through a phased approach: immediate stabilization and safety, a process of transparent disclosure, and eventually, the decision of whether to rebuild a new, more honest marriage or to separate with understanding.

• Non-Traditional Relationships: I provide a judgment-free space for couples practicing or exploring Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), polyamory, or open relationships. We focus on the specific architecture of these agreements, addressing jealousy, time management, and the complex communication required to maintain security within a non-monogamous structure.

Who Benefits from Group Work?

Group therapy is particularly effective for individuals who are successful in their professional lives but find their personal lives lacking in depth or satisfaction. It is designed for those who:

• Feel Isolated: You have people around you, but you don't feel truly known or understood.

• Intellectualize Feelings: You are great at analyzing your emotions but struggle to actually feel or express them in the moment.

• Hit a Wall in Relationships: You notice a pattern of conflict, withdrawal, or anxiety that follows you from one partner or friend to the next.

• Want Honest Feedback: You are ready to hear the truth about how you impact others in a supportive, confidential environment.
  
  Current group openings are listed under the Services → Group Therapy.

Areas of Focus Include:

• Communication Breakdowns: We analyze the repetitive loops of interaction that lead to misunderstandings and resentment. The focus is on moving beyond "he said/she said" debates to identify the underlying signals being missed. We establish new protocols for listening and speaking that reduce reactivity and ensure messages are received as intended.

• Behavioral Concerns in Children or Teens: We view behavioral shifts in children—whether withdrawal, aggression, or academic decline—not as isolated rebellion, but as a signal of systemic stress. We work to decode what the behavior is communicating about the family dynamic. The goal is to address the root need, allowing the behavior to de-escalate without resorting to punitive control battles.

• Sibling Conflicts: While some rivalry is natural, chronic conflict can damage the long-term family culture. We address the root causes of the tension, which often involve perceived favoritism, competition for resources, or undefined boundaries. We help siblings develop conflict resolution skills and differentiation, allowing them to coexist with respect.

• Adjusting to Major Life Changes: Relocations, financial shifts, or the loss of a family member destabilize the home environment. We provide a container to process the transition, helping the family establish new norms and routines. The objective is to maintain connection and stability while the external circumstances are in flux.

• Blended Family Challenges: Integrating two family systems requires clear architecture, not just good intentions. We address the unique complexities of stepparent roles, loyalty binds for the children, and the merging of different household cultures. We work to establish clear boundaries and expectations that respect the biological bonds while fostering new connections.

• Parenting Disputes: When parents are misaligned on discipline or values, it creates anxiety and loopholes for the children. We work to close the gap between parents, creating a "united front." The focus is on negotiating a shared parenting philosophy that creates consistency and security for the children, regardless of the parents' marital status.

For clients with demanding schedules or urgent needs, the traditional weekly model is not always efficient. Intensives provide a concentrated block of time to bypass the "check-in" phase and go straight to the core work, allowing you to achieve months of progress in a single window.

• Accelerated Results & Efficiency

  Traditional 50-minute sessions often spend the first 15 minutes checking in and the last 10 minutes winding down, leaving only 25 minutes for deep work. Intensives eliminate this start-stop dynamic. By working in extended blocks, we maintain momentum, allowing us to reach the root of complex issues without the interruption of the clock. This is ideal for executives who need to maximize their time investment.

• Couples in Crisis

  When a relationship is on the brink of separation or reeling from the discovery of infidelity, waiting a week between sessions can feel unbearable. Intensives provide the necessary time to de-escalate high conflict, establish safety, and move out of gridlock. We use this time to stabilize the relationship and determine a clear path forward—whether that means rebuilding or decoupling with dignity.

• Uninterrupted Trauma Processing
  Processing traumatic memories or deep-seated family of origin issues requires a high degree of physiological safety. In standard sessions, we often have to "close up" just as a breakthrough is happening. Intensives allow us to complete the processing cycle in one sitting, ensuring you leave the session feeling regulated and resolved rather than opened up and vulnerable.

• Customized Structure
  There is no "one size fits all" for this work. Intensives are built around your specific goals and schedule. Options range from extended 75-90 minute sessions for specific issues, to half-day or full-day blocks for comprehensive work. This format is particularly useful for clients flying in from out of area or those with limited availability during standard business hours.